{"id":9863,"date":"2026-05-28T15:24:48","date_gmt":"2026-05-28T20:24:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pdel.org\/2026\/05\/28\/what-do-parents-say-about-the-positive-discipline-in-everyday-parenting-program-in-canada\/"},"modified":"2026-05-29T14:50:00","modified_gmt":"2026-05-29T19:50:00","slug":"what-do-parents-say-about-the-positive-discipline-in-everyday-parenting-program-in-canada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pdel.org\/fr\/2026\/05\/28\/what-do-parents-say-about-the-positive-discipline-in-everyday-parenting-program-in-canada\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do Parents Say About the Positive Discipline in Everyday Parenting Program in Canada?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; da_disable_devices=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; da_is_popup=&#8221;off&#8221; da_exit_intent=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_close=&#8221;on&#8221; da_alt_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_dark_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_not_modal=&#8221;on&#8221; da_is_singular=&#8221;off&#8221; da_with_loader=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_shadow=&#8221;on&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;]<\/p>\n<h2>Abstract<\/h2>\n<p>The word &#8220;discipline&#8221; has come to suggest control, punishment, and obedience, yet its roots lie in ideas of learning and understanding. This article traces how the concept has evolved over time&nbsp;\u2014 from extreme violence, through behaviourism and constructivism, to relational neuroscience&nbsp;\u2014 and reframes discipline as a process of strengthening children&#8217;s understanding and supporting their evolving capacities to claim their rights. Drawing on the Convention on the Rights of the Child, it sets out a five-principle framework for rights-based discipline: (1) non-violence; (2) respect for children&#8217;s evolving capacities; (3) respect for children&#8217;s individuality; (4) engagement of children&#8217;s participation; and (5) respect for children&#8217;s dignity. Evidence-based approaches illustrate each principle. The authors call for reclaiming and restoring the true meaning of &#8220;discipline&#8221; so that all children may thrive.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Keywords:<\/strong> discipline; physical punishment; emotional punishment; children&#8217;s rights; rights-based discipline<\/p>\n<h2>Introduction<\/h2>\n<p>In much of the world, &#8220;discipline&#8221; now carries connotations of enforcement and punishment&nbsp;\u2014 as if a child were a piece of clay to be molded into a predetermined shape. But the Latin <em>disciplina<\/em> meant instruction, teaching, learning, and knowledge, and <em>discere<\/em> meant to learn or acquire skill. In its original sense, discipline conveyed an image closer to an artist drawing out the shape already within the medium than to a sculptor forcing clay into a fixed form. The article argues that equating discipline with punishment and obedience is anachronistic in an age of children&#8217;s rights, and traces the history of child discipline in the West&nbsp;\u2014 using Canada as a representative case&nbsp;\u2014 to show how the concept has shifted alongside theory, research, and social progress.<\/p>\n<h2>1. The Age of Violence<\/h2>\n<p>Canadian disciplinary law descends from Roman law, where the <em>pater familias<\/em> held near-absolute power over his household under <em>patria potestas<\/em>&nbsp;\u2014 children held a status close to that of slaves. A decree in 365 first restricted punishment to actions less than &#8220;extremely severe,&#8221; an early hint of a child&#8217;s right to some protection. Over the centuries this <em>limitation<\/em> became, in English common law, a <em>justification<\/em>: Blackstone (1770) framed &#8220;moderate chastisement&#8221; as a parental power. The 1860 <em>Hopley&#8217;s case<\/em>&nbsp;\u2014 a schoolmaster who beat a boy to death&nbsp;\u2014 produced the &#8220;reasonable force&#8221; standard that still underlies a defence to assault in Canada&#8217;s Criminal Code today.<\/p>\n<h2>2. The Age of Abolition<\/h2>\n<p>From 1891, courts began de-legitimating violence within the family, rejecting the notion of &#8220;necessary violence&#8221; against wives. Post-war human-rights instruments&nbsp;\u2014 the Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948) and the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (1966)&nbsp;\u2014 classed cruel, inhuman, and degrading punishment as violations of international law. In Canada, corporal punishment of apprentices ended in 1955, judicial corporal punishment was abolished in 1972, hanging ended in 1976, and the death penalty was fully eliminated in 1998. Criminal justice shifted from violent punishment toward rehabilitation and reintegration.<\/p>\n<h2>3. The Age of Behaviourism<\/h2>\n<p>While violent punishment receded from adult life, it remained normative for children&nbsp;\u2014 the strap persisted in many Canadian schools into the 1990s, and school corporal punishment was not prohibited until 2004. Behaviourism reframed behaviour as the product of reinforcement and punishment, giving rise to sticker charts, token economies, &#8220;response cost,&#8221; and &#8220;time-out.&#8221; Physical pain was increasingly replaced by emotional loss&nbsp;\u2014 isolation, shame, and the removal of valued things&nbsp;\u2014 serving the same punitive purpose. Legitimised as &#8220;alternatives to physical punishment,&#8221; these techniques entrenched the assumption that externally imposed consequences are necessary to children&#8217;s learning.<\/p>\n<h2>4. The Age of Constructivism<\/h2>\n<p>Drawing on Piaget and Vygotsky, constructivism focused on children&#8217;s thinking and their intrinsic drive to understand the world. The same act&nbsp;\u2014 a child dropping food&nbsp;\u2014 is &#8220;misbehaviour&#8221; through a behaviourist lens but exploration through a constructivist one. Vygotsky&#8217;s concept of &#8220;scaffolding,&#8221; co-constructing knowledge with a more skilled partner, is antithetical to reward-and-punishment systems. Constructivism reshaped early childhood education, recasting children as agents rather than objects, adults as guides rather than controllers, and &#8220;misbehaviour&#8221; as an indicator of a child&#8217;s current understanding.<\/p>\n<h2>5. The Age of Neuroscience<\/h2>\n<p>Brain science revealed the rapid growth of neural connections in early life and how experience shapes the developing brain through &#8220;serve and return&#8221; interactions and epigenetic processes. Higher-order skills&nbsp;\u2014 attention, impulse control, planning&nbsp;\u2014 make up &#8220;executive function,&#8221; which develops gradually through scaffolding and is impaired by threat, pain, and stress. Relational pain, such as ignoring or isolating a child, activates the same brain response as physical pain. More than 180&nbsp;studies link childhood maltreatment to changes in the brain, and analysis of the Adverse Childhood Experiences data indicates that &#8220;normative&#8221; physical punishment meets the criteria of an adverse childhood experience.<\/p>\n<h2>6. The Age of Children&#8217;s Rights<\/h2>\n<p>The 1989 United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC) recognised children&#8217;s personhood for the first time, and has been ratified by every UN member state except the United States. Rather than ending discipline, the CRC offers a roadmap for it&nbsp;\u2014 one built on five principles.<\/p>\n<h3>6.1 Principle 1: Discipline is non-violent<\/h3>\n<p>Article 19 guarantees protection from all physical and mental violence. The Committee on the Rights of the Child affirms that physical punishment is violence regardless of its form, intensity, or frequency, and that emotional punishments which belittle, humiliate, threaten, or ridicule are equally incompatible with the Convention. Because fear interferes with learning, constructive discipline rests first on a foundation of physical and emotional safety.<\/p>\n<h3>6.2 Principle 2: Discipline respects children&#8217;s evolving capacities<\/h3>\n<p>Articles 5 and 14 require guidance consistent with the child&#8217;s developing understanding. Discipline must therefore rest on knowledge of development&nbsp;\u2014 including children&#8217;s drives for mastery and autonomy. Self-determination theory frames children as intrinsically motivated to understand and master challenges, a motivation that insensitive external control can stifle.<\/p>\n<h3>6.3 Principle 3: Discipline respects the child&#8217;s individuality<\/h3>\n<p>Article 29 directs education toward the fullest development of each child&#8217;s personality and talents. One-size-fits-all rewards and punishments ignore context, temperament, and relationship history, and undermine the creativity and risk-taking that learning requires. Rights-based discipline builds instead on each child&#8217;s unique strengths and offers mentorship in the face of challenges rather than punishment for failure.<\/p>\n<h3>6.4 Principle 4: Discipline fosters children&#8217;s participation<\/h3>\n<p>Article 12 affirms the child&#8217;s right to express views on matters affecting them. Rather than imposing consequences from above, rights-based discipline treats the child as an active participant&nbsp;\u2014 offering comfort first, then identifying the problem and solving it together. This approach is reflected in programs such as <em>Emotion Coaching<\/em>, <em>Collaborative and Proactive Problem Solving<\/em>, <em>Interpersonal Neurobiology<\/em>, <em>Positive Discipline in Everyday Parenting<\/em>, and <em>Tuning into Kids<\/em>.<\/p>\n<h3>6.5 Principle 5: Discipline respects the child&#8217;s dignity<\/h3>\n<p>Dignity is the right to be treated ethically and as worthy of respect. Many traditional punishments&nbsp;\u2014 striking, isolating, forcing a child to stand in a corner, or public humiliation&nbsp;\u2014 are designed to strip it away. Social-emotional learning and restorative practices teach social values while respecting children&#8217;s humanity, and randomised trials show gains in emotion regulation, empathy, and perspective-taking alongside reductions in aggression.<\/p>\n<h2>Conclusion<\/h2>\n<p>Western approaches to discipline have travelled a long way since ancient Rome. To date, 52&nbsp;countries have abolished all physical punishment and other humiliating treatment of children. This article is a call to action&nbsp;\u2014 to end legalised violence against children, to turn our backs on the naughty chair rather than on children, and to reclaim &#8220;discipline&#8221; as the facilitation of children&#8217;s understanding so that all children may thrive and exercise their rights.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Bottom line:<\/strong> &#8220;Discipline&#8221; need not mean punishment. Reframed around children&#8217;s rights&nbsp;\u2014 non-violence, evolving capacities, individuality, participation, and dignity&nbsp;\u2014 it becomes a process of guiding understanding that supports healthy development and lets every child thrive.<\/p>\n<p>[\/et_pb_text][\/et_pb_column][\/et_pb_row][\/et_pb_section]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[et_pb_section fb_built=&#8221;1&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; da_disable_devices=&#8221;off|off|off&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; da_is_popup=&#8221;off&#8221; da_exit_intent=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_close=&#8221;on&#8221; da_alt_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_dark_close=&#8221;off&#8221; da_not_modal=&#8221;on&#8221; da_is_singular=&#8221;off&#8221; da_with_loader=&#8221;off&#8221; da_has_shadow=&#8221;on&#8221;][et_pb_row _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;][et_pb_column type=&#8221;4_4&#8243; _builder_version=&#8221;4.16&#8243; custom_padding=&#8221;|||&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221; custom_padding__hover=&#8221;|||&#8221;][et_pb_text _builder_version=&#8221;4.27.6&#8243; background_size=&#8221;initial&#8221; background_position=&#8221;top_left&#8221; background_repeat=&#8221;repeat&#8221; global_colors_info=&#8221;{}&#8221;] Abstract The word &#8220;discipline&#8221; has come to suggest control, punishment, and obedience, yet its roots lie in ideas of learning and understanding. 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